On realistic sex scenes

[emmagrant01]

I'm breaking a promise to myself that I'd NEVER post quiz results in my LJ again, but this one made me happy:


What kind of sex scene do you write?
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I actually STRIVE to write realistic sex scenes. (jedirita, stop looking at me like that. I know the carney fruit episode was a little out there.) I adore realism in slash, and nothing will pull me out of a story I'm reading faster than Harlequin-esque perfect sex. (It's sort of like looking at an airbrushed picture of a supermodel, you know? Nobody looks that good in reality!) Nobody regularly has sex that good! Reading about mind-blowing simultaneous orgasms that leave the people involved unconscious just makes me feel that MY sex life is somehow inadequate, just as the afore-mentioned supermodels make me feel fat, dumpy, and old. And I'm not that fat (having lost 25 pounds in the last two months -- yeah, me!), or dumpy, and I'm only 32. And I have a great sex life!

I think I prefer to write and read realistic sex scenes because I can identify with the people involved. When skin sliding on skin makes a funny noise, or someone doesn't loudly scream out their completion but makes a little grunt and they enjoy it anyway, or when one partner feels a little shortchanged and simmers about it afterwards -- those are things I can identify with, and it makes the relationship between the people all the more real.

Thoughts? Comments?

Comments

[clara-posts.livejournal.com]

I was pissed because when I did it I got 'romantic sex' - I have never yet written a simultaneous orgasm scene - swizz!! I like the sex quite realistic - not too perfect. Because in RL it hardly ever is... it's great but not perfect! When I did my Qui/Obi first time scene at the beginning of my series I had Obi spray his shorts almost as soon as Qui touched him... what's romantic about that??? Then I had him refusing to swallow.... ::stomps off to redo quiz with different answers::

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

Well, you do know that multiple choice tests are rarely valid measures, right? So what'd you get this time?

When I did my Qui/Obi first time scene at the beginning of my series I had Obi spray his shorts almost as soon as Qui touched him... what's romantic about that??? Then I had him refusing to swallow....

That sounds pretty interesting... I'm not sure I've read it. Link?

[clara-posts.livejournal.com]

Well, I did it again and got 'romantic sex' *again*...curses... Perhaps it's true!! (I think it's the monogamous answer tht's doing it) SO I had *ONE* more attempt and got:


What kind of sex scene do you write?
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So, that's better :o)

That sounds pretty interesting... I'm not sure I've read it. Link?

Now, there's a funny story here... this particular story sounds like everything that you dislike in slash (as per your post to the old MA list), so much so that, in a fit of paranoia when you posted that I assumed that it was a response to you having read it!! (As it had been posted about a week before!!) So Rita had to soothe me over and say you hadn't read it because you'd been away!! (Forgive me - I have an annual paranoia attack on 1st August!!)The entire paranoia attack is somehere on my journal :o)

Anyway the link is:

http://www.masterapprentice.org/archive/c/commitments01.html

Actually - the swallowing bit is in the not quite finished follow up... basically I do get them together when Obi is young, but I'm trying to explore all the 'problems'... the age difference, their student/teacher relationship etc. But that follows more in the next one. This one serves to bookend the whole series....