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Dec. 15th, 2005 08:17 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
emmagrant01This is taken directly from a comment on a (non-fandom) comm I follow:
Sex isn't only about penetration, btw: gay male sex stereotypes are often based on straight assumptions of what constitutes male sexuality. Straights often think that gay sex is all about butt sex: it's not the only thing. It's also not only about orgasms, anatomy, and technique: they forget it's about the love. I sound sappy, but ultimately it comes down to that. I know gay men who've never had anal sex, giving or receiving. Gay men aren't defined by a sex act, they are defined by the nature of the attraction, not the acts itself.
• Some of us slashers say this sort of thing a lot, but do you think it really translates into our fic? Do we tend to portray sex and relationships between two men or two women in a realistic way, or do we tend to stick with heterosexual stereotypes and gender roles?
• Do you prefer to read/write about realistically depicted gay characters, or do you think slash isn't about characters being GLBT? (I don't mean that the focus of the stories is on GLBT issues, but that the characters are assumed to be gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc., as opposed to... well, I'm not sure what. But I know I've heard people talk about slash not being about GLBT characters; I just can't remember what they said.)
*sips coffee*
Sex isn't only about penetration, btw: gay male sex stereotypes are often based on straight assumptions of what constitutes male sexuality. Straights often think that gay sex is all about butt sex: it's not the only thing. It's also not only about orgasms, anatomy, and technique: they forget it's about the love. I sound sappy, but ultimately it comes down to that. I know gay men who've never had anal sex, giving or receiving. Gay men aren't defined by a sex act, they are defined by the nature of the attraction, not the acts itself.
• Some of us slashers say this sort of thing a lot, but do you think it really translates into our fic? Do we tend to portray sex and relationships between two men or two women in a realistic way, or do we tend to stick with heterosexual stereotypes and gender roles?
• Do you prefer to read/write about realistically depicted gay characters, or do you think slash isn't about characters being GLBT? (I don't mean that the focus of the stories is on GLBT issues, but that the characters are assumed to be gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc., as opposed to... well, I'm not sure what. But I know I've heard people talk about slash not being about GLBT characters; I just can't remember what they said.)
*sips coffee*
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Date: 2005-12-15 03:04 pm (UTC)I'll have more to write on this topic later. It's too early yet.
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Date: 2005-12-15 03:21 pm (UTC)I think there's a big difference between what women want to read and what gay men do. And though it's true that relationships (not only gay) are based on something more than just sex... well, we're talking about smut.
BTW, I know your icon!Harry :P
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Date: 2005-12-16 01:36 am (UTC)