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[emmagrant01]

So, you know that "Ten nasty things I'd love to say" meme that was going around a few days ago? I didn't read any of them, because I swore off wank a while back. And it just isn't worth the energy to try to figure out if any of those statements were intended for me. If someone hates me, fine. It doesn't really matter in the scheme of things, you know?

Instead, here are ten positive things I'd love to say about people. And hell, I should probably just say them rather than post them anonymously, but the truth is that each one of them actually applies to several people. So if you think it's meant for you, the odds are that it is. :-)

1. You are one of the strongest women I know, and you don't deserve all the shit you've had to go through. I admire your strength so, so much! Know that you have a loyal friend in me.
   
2. I read your fic and think damn, that's good. I wish I could be as good a writer as you. I feel like I learn from reading your work, and I suppose that is good enough for now.
   
3. We would be good friends even if we didn't have fandom in common. I adore you for everything you do and are, and I'm proud to be your friend.
   
4. I feel badly that I haven't read much of your fic, but it isn't because I don't care or because I don't respect or like you as a writer. On the contrary, I just haven't had time with STG going on. Your fic is on my list, and I'm planning to get to it soon. I keep hearing good things about you, just so you know!
   
5. You probably consider yourself just a fangirl, but you really mean a lot to me. Thanks for your sweet and unwavering support! (And thanks for the very special things you've done for me too!)
   
6. I wish I could get to know you better, because you seem like a wonderful, intelligent, thoughtful person. I'm not on your flist, so I doubt you'll see this, but I'll continue to admire you and your work from a distance.
   
7. I loved your writing so, so much, and I'm sad to see you drifting away from fandom. I understand that's how life is, of course -- but I still wish you were here and writing, because you made fandom a better place by your presence.
   
8. Your art makes me giddy -- it's just so good! I don't know how you do it, how you manage to capture such wonderful detail in an image. You've drawn for me, and I was so, so honored. Still am!
   
9. You're such an adorable person! You're quirky and funny, and I love that about you. I'm so happy that we've gotten to know each other better!
   
10. One of the hardest things about drifting out of the Star Wars fandom was losing regular contact with you. Sure, we still comment on each other's posts, but it isn't the same. I miss you, and I think about you often.
    
    
    Feel free to pass this one on. ♥ all of you.

Comments

[lauramcewan.livejournal.com]

You always think of the best things!

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

Oh, I've been meaning to email you -- I'm giving a talk at PSU November 4. I fly out Saturday afternoon, but would you be able to meet for breakfast or something?

[lauramcewan.livejournal.com]

ack! That's the weekend I'll be in ABQ! I'm gone 3-6. DAMN! Wha't's the chances of you coming back?

At any rate, skip Starbucks (And Seattle's Best, same place) and do COFFEE PEOPLE. Damn, I love their caramel fudge mochas!

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

Oh, of course! Poo. :-( Ah well, maybe next time?

[lauramcewan.livejournal.com]

absolutely! Let's hope I'm here! lol This has been a busy travel year. San Fran tomorrow, then ABQ in two weeks. I'm ready to stay HOME for a while! (At least until next Constrict!)

[sodamnquirky.livejournal.com]

Good call, Emma.

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

;-)

[sodamnquirky.livejournal.com]

Heh.
We should talk. I was going to say we should talk more often but I don't think we ever do... so "Hi" "How was your day?" :D

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

Thanks for asking!

Good! Work was pretty good, and sushi with Char was fun. I have a headache and I need to go to bed, but overall it was a good day. You?

[sodamnquirky.livejournal.com]

Good to read.
I've never tried sushi, I'm allergic to most seafood so I'm scared to try it.

Today ended up being a great day. I'm thankful for that. I needed it.

Owie, bedtime for you. *hugs*

[furiosity.livejournal.com]

The "10 nasty things" meme is still going around? I'd thought it has morphed into the "10 things" meme and people are doing it almost daily now, with mostly positive things. At least on my flist. >.> I think anyone who has nasty things to say to 10 whole people needs therapy, not an LJ. Especially if those 10 are on their flist! It's called 'defriending', ffs. Or, alternatively 'being honest'.

But I should speak - I just said one not-so-nice thing on one of those lists! But the person really deserves it, and we're not friends. :))

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

I don't know if it's still going around -- it disappeared from my flist a few days ago, happily. I tend not to read the LJs of people who do that sort of thing anyway. ;-)

[furiosity.livejournal.com]

Apparently, neither do I! I prefer a good mix of nice and nasty, because it just wouldn't be LJ without some nasty. >.> I was telling a friend in IM earlier that fandom should just move to an island for the time that everyone's *in* fandom. People are a lot more nicer to each other in person. >.>

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

I'm just not into the nasty thing. I know it's fun for some people, but it just stresses me out. And hey, we're here to have fun, right?

Meeting people in person does help. When you can picture someone in your mind and remember the way they smiled, it's harder to be mean to them online, I think. ;-)

[furiosity.livejournal.com]

I agree about the fun, but I think that without any nastiness ever, it'd be a little strange. Because people do get nasty, it's human. I figure it's ok as long as they can resolve whatever it is that makes them be nasty in a way that doesn't create even more nastiness.

...

I am not so much with this 'making sense' thing at 7 in the morning!

Yeah, once you've heard someone laugh or seen them smile, it gets pretty difficult to wish burnination upon them. I saw a video from the TWH (Sunday) cosplay re-enactment earlier this week where the audience was roaring with laughter at "Dumbledore"'s 'oh, big whoop-de-do' and lamented that we can't have that with funny posts on LJ. :\

[slytherincesss.livejournal.com]

fandom should just move to an island for the time that everyone's *in* fandom. People are a lot more nicer to each other in person.

Oh, I really agree with this -- and Nimbus and TWH proved this to be so true! Sometimes when I'm irritated by someone online, I have to step back and remind myself that the internet is such an imperfect communication medium because it's missing the nuances of face-to-face conversation, etc. Besides, what's better than a giant island of fandom cosplay?!

Sorry to barge into your convo with Emma, but I just agreed with what you said and had to say so!

[furiosity.livejournal.com]

I always try to remember that there are real people behind the usernames, too -- TWH really reinforced that, as well. I've seen my share of actual assholes online (as in, people who are just as horrid in person as they are online, and really did deserve to be told to stfu) but it often baffles me how quick people online often are to judge others based on words on a screen. I can't imagine seeing just a few comments/posts and deciding upon someone's personality based on those, yet it seems to happen a lot online. :\

what's better than a giant island of fandom cosplay?
Absolutely nothing, really! And there would be something to do for everyone. Man, we so need that island. *ships fandom/island*

[slytherincesss.livejournal.com]

Ooo, good call, Emma!

Coincidentally, as I read a few of those "ten things I'd like to say" memes on my f-list, I had the very same thought -- to post ten positive things about people on my f-list. I'm glad that I'm not alone in this thought!

I won't get to it tonight, but it's on my to-do list, definitely.

Go you!

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

*grins* It's so much more fun -- for me at least. Bitching at other people is distressing for me, and doing it anonymously only makes me feel sleazy. :-P

[slytherincesss.livejournal.com]

Yeah, same here. I mean, sure, I've discussed certain fandomers or fandom dynamics privately with friends. However, I make a concerted effort to avoid LJ when the occasional specific irritation arises in me with someone in fandom -- focus on the positive, yeah?

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

Absolutely! ;-)

(I'm not against gossip, but outright public meanness is so not productive.)

[slytherincesss.livejournal.com]

(I'm not against gossip either, heh! I was going to add that God knows I'm no Pollyanna -- there have been a few times where I've ignored my own rule and have said or done something mean-spirited, and hurt someone in fandom. And I deeply regret/have regretted each incident. Spot on -- so not productive.)

[wook77.livejournal.com]

These are the nicest things to say to people! I like this and I shall pinch for my own, mwwahahahahaaa.

BTW, You'd be proud of me... I saw wank in another journal and a bunch of people said they weren't going to get involved because they pledged on your journal not to wank. It was quite nice to see.

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

Oh, really? You mean my little pledge thing actually worked? That's so cool! :-) Thank you.

[wearethestars.livejournal.com]

It's also morphed into a fandom challenge...

If you're interested" (http://www.livejournal.com/users/deliciantasy/75721.html)

[emmagrant01.livejournal.com]

Oh, interesting!

[glockgal.livejournal.com]

Aww, this is such a better idea than the '10 masty things', but then, I'm a hopeless and annoying pollyanna. *hee* And you being in the Star Wars fandom seems strangely appropriate for you. And I like to fancy myself as number 8, because I am vain and self-centered, la la laaa

[yaycoffee.livejournal.com]

This is so cool! I read one of the ranty ones today, and I thought, People just have the ugliest things to say to other people. Do they have to be so passive agressive? It's called email.

And--I'm totally stealing this idea from you, btw. :-)

[zully.livejournal.com]

*laughs* I've always seen this as "10 Anonymous Comments." Of course, most people ruin it by posting who they wrote about. ;p

[krissielee.livejournal.com]

Yay, smart!Emma! ^_^ But then, that's not exactly a new development. You'd not be so smooshy and loveable if you weren't so darn smart.

I never did any of these, in either direction. I just...words don't come to me when I talk about people nicely. There's so ma ny things to say, and I can't put it on paper, so I don't try. But still, good idea!

Now, if I had self-esteem in any way, shape or form...I'd so hope I was #4. I'm not that crazy, though. ^^;;;

[jane-sehrn-ta.livejournal.com]

What wonderful things to say to people... it's so much nicer than all those nasty, negative things people get involved in.

(((huggs))) and ♥ to you, Emma

[meredyth-13.livejournal.com]

A beautiful heart is a wonderful thing.

♥

[hearts-n-roses.livejournal.com]

I love these things (the good ones), but I always waste too much time trying to figure out if I'm on them...hehe.

Need to lighten up and stop thinking the world revolves around me. But is does, doesn't it?

*grins*

[rotschopf.livejournal.com]

What a delightful idea! There's enough wank going on in about every fandom, so this is truly a great idea to work against that *steals* Thank you!

luv & hugs
The Drow

[rurounihime.livejournal.com]

Those are wonderful compliments. Each one on its own would make a person higher than a kite. Thanks for making the fandom brighter. God knows it needs it.

[themostepotente.livejournal.com]

It's nice to read something positive for a change. Thanks :-)

--P

[pombagira.livejournal.com]

you make being a fangirl the most fun... not only do you write a good yarn, but you also say the nicest things!!! oh and you recomend good fics to.. woot!!!

*dances around!*

[awaywithpixie.livejournal.com]

*Hugs*

After the wank I've had to put up with at work all day (trust me, grown men arguing over the size of their penises offices), It's so wonderful to come home and see people avoiding the awful type of wank. I must admit to being pretty grouchy of late, but now I'm mellowing out. Thanks for helping me to touch my mellow side today!

*more hugs*

[poetheather.livejournal.com]

This is a really cool idea. The wank is just so annoying and people don't say good things about each other often enough. Thank you for this. It really made my day. You are a wonderful person who I really hope I can get to know better.

[ravyn-ashling.livejournal.com]

Yes. Will definitely pass this on. *loves*

[ex-ella-bane358.livejournal.com]

Love memes are so much better. I'm very glad you've done this!

[helens78]

*snuggles you to pieces* I love any kind of ten-positive-things meme. Fits right in with the whole optimism thing. :D

[aoi-shu.livejournal.com]

That's so nice^^.
And who invented the "bad things" should read it and feel ashamed of themselves^^.

Shu

[tipgardner.livejournal.com]

You're lovely. Now this is the sort of list I'd like to be on! :)

[mayflo.livejournal.com]

I've had enough fandom wank too *blegh* I fucking HATE to see ppl suffer from it.

*hugs to those who need it*

Fandom's supposed to be a fun place, godammit!!

So yeah, that out of my system *heh*, 10 positive things are an oasis XD

[charlotteschaos.livejournal.com]

Aww, emma makes everything better :)

[oddnari.livejournal.com]

Of all the writings of all the writers in this fandom that I have seen, yours are the kindest and most thoughtful and evocative..

.. and am so reducing your lovely words by giving them stupid adjectives as I did. Sorry.

I just meant to say that I appreciate your thoughts awfully. They are beautiful, and I have this instinctive feeling (though I know little of you) that you mean them passionately.

[kestrelsparhawk.livejournal.com]

What Mishty said. Completely.

Came for STG, stayed for the good energy.

[sesptwd.livejournal.com]

you are teh love, Emma