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emmagrant01Dear Fandom,
I'm sick to death of wanks and kerfluffles, in all their assorted forms. I'm tired of seeing people I care about being snarked at, both to their faces and behind their backs. I'm equally tired of seeing people I care about being mean and petty to others. So I'm going to make a public pledge, and I hope I am able to stick with it.
I hereby pledge not to participate in wank any more. I won't link to wanky posts. I will resist the urge to comment on them, except to try to make a reasonable and friendly point. When my friends are the victims of wank, I'll comfort them behind the scenes instead of drumming up even more wank with a ranty post.
I furthermore pledge to do my best not to jump to conclusions about anyone else's intentions. I will give people the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.
And if I have a problem with someone, I will ask them about it directly.
Sincerely,
Emma
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ETA: Just to clarify, this pledge is about ME, and not anyone else. I'm not trying to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do. I know some of you out there really like wank and enjoy stirring it up, reading all the threads, and watching the drama of the fall-out. That's not my thing, and I'm not passing judgment on any of you. :-)
I'm sick to death of wanks and kerfluffles, in all their assorted forms. I'm tired of seeing people I care about being snarked at, both to their faces and behind their backs. I'm equally tired of seeing people I care about being mean and petty to others. So I'm going to make a public pledge, and I hope I am able to stick with it.
I hereby pledge not to participate in wank any more. I won't link to wanky posts. I will resist the urge to comment on them, except to try to make a reasonable and friendly point. When my friends are the victims of wank, I'll comfort them behind the scenes instead of drumming up even more wank with a ranty post.
I furthermore pledge to do my best not to jump to conclusions about anyone else's intentions. I will give people the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.
And if I have a problem with someone, I will ask them about it directly.
Sincerely,
Emma
[Poll #569143]
ETA: Just to clarify, this pledge is about ME, and not anyone else. I'm not trying to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do. I know some of you out there really like wank and enjoy stirring it up, reading all the threads, and watching the drama of the fall-out. That's not my thing, and I'm not passing judgment on any of you. :-)
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Date: 2005-09-12 07:04 pm (UTC)I try to stay wank-free myself, and the only downside is feeling clueless and out-of-it when people refer mysteriously in their LJs to a big kerfuffle that you are barely (if at all) aware of.
I'll try to make friends feel better who are having a bad time (wank-related or not), but I don't want to contribute to unnecessary ongoing confrontational BS.
It's just like in real life. Often the most effective way to defuse an argument between two people in a group, is for the rest of the group to determinedly not acknowledge the conflict in any way, and to push forward with discussion on other (neutral) topics.