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emmagrant01Dear Fandom,
I'm sick to death of wanks and kerfluffles, in all their assorted forms. I'm tired of seeing people I care about being snarked at, both to their faces and behind their backs. I'm equally tired of seeing people I care about being mean and petty to others. So I'm going to make a public pledge, and I hope I am able to stick with it.
I hereby pledge not to participate in wank any more. I won't link to wanky posts. I will resist the urge to comment on them, except to try to make a reasonable and friendly point. When my friends are the victims of wank, I'll comfort them behind the scenes instead of drumming up even more wank with a ranty post.
I furthermore pledge to do my best not to jump to conclusions about anyone else's intentions. I will give people the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.
And if I have a problem with someone, I will ask them about it directly.
Sincerely,
Emma
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ETA: Just to clarify, this pledge is about ME, and not anyone else. I'm not trying to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do. I know some of you out there really like wank and enjoy stirring it up, reading all the threads, and watching the drama of the fall-out. That's not my thing, and I'm not passing judgment on any of you. :-)
I'm sick to death of wanks and kerfluffles, in all their assorted forms. I'm tired of seeing people I care about being snarked at, both to their faces and behind their backs. I'm equally tired of seeing people I care about being mean and petty to others. So I'm going to make a public pledge, and I hope I am able to stick with it.
I hereby pledge not to participate in wank any more. I won't link to wanky posts. I will resist the urge to comment on them, except to try to make a reasonable and friendly point. When my friends are the victims of wank, I'll comfort them behind the scenes instead of drumming up even more wank with a ranty post.
I furthermore pledge to do my best not to jump to conclusions about anyone else's intentions. I will give people the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.
And if I have a problem with someone, I will ask them about it directly.
Sincerely,
Emma
[Poll #569143]
ETA: Just to clarify, this pledge is about ME, and not anyone else. I'm not trying to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do. I know some of you out there really like wank and enjoy stirring it up, reading all the threads, and watching the drama of the fall-out. That's not my thing, and I'm not passing judgment on any of you. :-)
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Date: 2005-09-12 05:34 pm (UTC):D
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Date: 2005-09-12 05:35 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-12 05:37 pm (UTC)Btw, do you want an invite to the new archive? Just gimme a shout, and I'll set things up for you.
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Date: 2005-09-12 05:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-12 05:45 pm (UTC)Whew! *wipes brow* Made me nervous there. :P I'm in. ;)
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Date: 2005-09-12 05:48 pm (UTC)*ticks the heartsy box*
WORD.
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Date: 2005-09-12 05:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-12 05:54 pm (UTC)Fuck no, I hate this shit, if it never happens again to me it will be too damn soon.
And if it does, then by God it better be something I actually caused. :P
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Date: 2005-09-12 05:54 pm (UTC)*loves hard*
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Date: 2005-09-12 07:04 pm (UTC)I try to stay wank-free myself, and the only downside is feeling clueless and out-of-it when people refer mysteriously in their LJs to a big kerfuffle that you are barely (if at all) aware of.
I'll try to make friends feel better who are having a bad time (wank-related or not), but I don't want to contribute to unnecessary ongoing confrontational BS.
It's just like in real life. Often the most effective way to defuse an argument between two people in a group, is for the rest of the group to determinedly not acknowledge the conflict in any way, and to push forward with discussion on other (neutral) topics.
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Date: 2005-09-12 08:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-12 08:23 pm (UTC)Wanks are such a waste of time. All they do is make people feel bad and bear a remarkable resemblance to schoolyard bullying. There are only so many hours in the day for me to do everything I want.
I absolutely refuse to waste time I could reading or writing or wanking (the fun way) or playing computer games or whatever participating in a fannish wank. Screw that. I see absolutely zero appeal.
My two cents. :)
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Date: 2005-09-12 09:17 pm (UTC)weirdley enough fandom wank is oh so similar to that of Pagan wank and generally i stay away from both. . . generally.. *grins*.. although the pagan wank i occasionally get involved in.. in a diplomatic slapping kinda way. but not that offten.. i believe that it is moslty to do with the learning curve of internet communitites...mmm.. *ponders this*.
*beams*
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Date: 2005-09-12 09:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-12 09:27 pm (UTC)I will pledge to think three times, instead of two before posting or replying to *anything*. And I gave up on f_w a long time ago.
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Date: 2005-09-12 10:30 pm (UTC)