It's not that they don't want to hang around anymore so much as it just becomes difficult. It's still really hard to carry on a conversation with my son around because my attention is so divided. Going out becomes harder, though definitely do-able -- if you go to a place where it's okay if your kid runs around or makes noise. We tend to go out early, eat quick, and get out the door when he starts losing patience. Not exactly conducive to sitting around and talking. And I only have one kid! There's probably a reason I almost never see families with more than two kids in a restaurant. :-P
And infants are just so intense that it can be hard to hang around with parents of a newborn. For obvious reasons, their attention is so focused on their baby that it's literally all they can talk about, for hours on end. Some people might enjoy that, but even for other people with kids, it can be boring as hell.
It's just different, maybe. When I was little, all my parents' friends had kids around the same age, and we had epic parties. I see the value of that so much now! The parents could hang out and drink and talk, and all the kids were happy to play together with no adult interference. I think that's what I need!
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Date: 2011-06-24 04:47 am (UTC)And infants are just so intense that it can be hard to hang around with parents of a newborn. For obvious reasons, their attention is so focused on their baby that it's literally all they can talk about, for hours on end. Some people might enjoy that, but even for other people with kids, it can be boring as hell.
It's just different, maybe. When I was little, all my parents' friends had kids around the same age, and we had epic parties. I see the value of that so much now! The parents could hang out and drink and talk, and all the kids were happy to play together with no adult interference. I think that's what I need!